Friday, February 4, 2011

The word Problem, is the Problem!


The word problem is the problem!!!

Often in relationships two people will disagree, some couples more than others.

The right communication is key towards building a healthy realationship or restoring a broken one.

How you approach your mate during an argument usually will determine just how long the disagreement will go on.

A mistake many make, the problem, lies right in that ONE word, problem!

Along with a nasty tone, saying 'what's your problem?!' is going to cause your mate to get on the instant defense! There actually is a more respectable approach that will get your answer as well as cause a positive response vs a negative one.

The next time your woman or man seems to be having an issue that they are not communicating to you, wait for the right timing, maybe even suggesting a walk around a park or school track, a place where oxygen can flow to the brain and keep the stress level low! And then try saying this:

"I see that something is bothering you and I am concerned baby, so, what's up? what's going on with you today?"

And yes, verbatim would be best if this approach is NEW to you!!

All in all, feel the cool from the winter air versus the tension and ice cold look from your partner by avoiding those dreadfully negative words, 'what's's your problem?!'

DeAnna 'Mz DeeVa' Shields