tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-32122286836645253762024-03-21T15:17:47.299-07:00deeVaizmsDefinition of a DeeVaizm: A word, phrase, or group of words that are CREATED with a unique meaning by Mz DeeVa; usually related to or about Relationships, Love, Men, Women or Society's Mindsets!!
Blogs here are Mz DeeVa's random thoughts and advice...advising from experience or asking others for their thoughts on subject presented...ask DeeVahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04372396176731468470noreply@blogger.comBlogger30125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3212228683664525376.post-37798897545837460222019-05-26T12:58:00.000-07:002019-05-26T12:58:14.176-07:00Suflakitty Seeds Suflakitty Seeds:
A DeeVaizm definition: That BS your man goes to look at when you send him to the store and he gets distracted by a cute booty on an aisle unrelated to the errand.
Example:
Him: Bae, I brought home some suflakitty seeds.
Her: Why???!!! I don’t eat suflakitty seeds, was there a cute girl on the aisle?!
Him: Ummm, yeah, bae there was 😂😂😂
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So humble and honest.
Loves her, “Nothing goes for Nothing.”
Watch https://www.facebook.com/BBCafrica/videos/253308621988755?s=100000395745267&v=e&sfns=mo via Facebook:
(Video by BBC, from Facebook timeline):
<a href="https://www.facebook.com/BBCafrica/videos/253308621988755?s=100000395745267&v=e&sfns=mo"></a>ask DeeVahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04372396176731468470noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3212228683664525376.post-68383213981849884912019-05-18T22:02:00.000-07:002019-05-18T22:02:47.027-07:00Exercise Patience Exercise Patience:
“When your child, spouse or coworker begins to get impatient waiting for you.”
DeeVa: “Child of mine, I know the restaurant line is long, exercise patience, we will eat soon!”😳
~mz DeeVa, just another deeVaizm
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“When your man is trying to slide his slick hands across your breasts to create a moment when you are tired or busy af!”😂
DeeVa: “Honey quit Titty-ing 😂!”
~mz DeeVa, just another deeVaizm
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Will they minimize serial marriages? #LetsTalkask DeeVahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04372396176731468470noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3212228683664525376.post-2388624463940048552011-08-26T16:44:00.001-07:002019-05-16T17:41:21.608-07:00Shaquille O'Neal says D.Wade is cheating on Gabrielle Union with actress Lauren London according to TVOne Online News.ask DeeVahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04372396176731468470noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3212228683664525376.post-2875490444754551892011-08-26T13:17:00.001-07:002019-05-16T17:41:21.612-07:00'Yo wife is having my Black baby' ROFL wow >> <a href="http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rUtrEtVHLAA&feature=youtube_gdata_player">http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rUtrEtVHLAA&feature=youtube_gdata_player</a> Nephew you are crazy!ask DeeVahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04372396176731468470noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3212228683664525376.post-30244668735079886442011-08-26T07:21:00.001-07:002011-08-26T07:21:11.711-07:00RelationshipTalk: I've been on air telling you all to keep open communication and to not be selfish; is it working? <a href="Http://www.MzDeeVa.com">Http://www.MzDeeVa.com</a>ask DeeVahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04372396176731468470noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3212228683664525376.post-87318701391368310612011-08-25T15:47:00.001-07:002019-05-16T17:41:21.633-07:00Bishop Long accusers soon found out that blackmail does not pay for life, so they plot new 'tell all' book, read on CNN <a href="http://t.co/BEvDBqT">http://t.co/BEvDBqT</a>ask DeeVahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04372396176731468470noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3212228683664525376.post-41483902424468324592011-08-23T06:22:00.001-07:002019-05-16T17:41:21.616-07:00Toya Carter New husband Memphitz was arrested on gun charges at Atlanta-Hartsfield airport this morning according to HelloBeautiful.comask DeeVahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04372396176731468470noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3212228683664525376.post-81447495352113821702011-08-17T19:32:00.001-07:002011-08-17T19:32:27.242-07:00Blogging from my mobile from time to time...I have to remember to keep real short lol ~Mz DeeVaask DeeVahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04372396176731468470noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3212228683664525376.post-67047130212786024442011-08-17T19:29:00.003-07:002019-05-16T17:41:21.623-07:00e who loves you is everything..#imdigginthat"ask DeeVahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04372396176731468470noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3212228683664525376.post-6696750954724722682011-08-17T19:29:00.001-07:002011-08-17T19:29:09.089-07:00Evening share from Mz Sleepless in Central Texas: Tweet from "@48Laws757: To love someone is nothing, to be loved by someone is something, to love someonask DeeVahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04372396176731468470noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3212228683664525376.post-55583943234232172252011-08-14T12:49:00.000-07:002011-08-14T13:00:35.581-07:00She Think She's All That Syndrome<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjdpwssyq55Mh-YuZCVm7ru0uF7dPKDGRDXpc0XzyyhCq_ezkxLkhnrpx5BmUKfS-1sk6G6iqEp6qh4VBCbkPzehE4AKgpHnK_MaNf6XB0o6V1AMXJt4bgefEZ5_5QcIQJaIOxbVIzR_9il/s1600/1+Tinker+Bell+photo.bmp" imageanchor="1" style="clear:right; float:right; margin-left:1em; margin-bottom:1em"><img border="0" height="319" width="320" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjdpwssyq55Mh-YuZCVm7ru0uF7dPKDGRDXpc0XzyyhCq_ezkxLkhnrpx5BmUKfS-1sk6G6iqEp6qh4VBCbkPzehE4AKgpHnK_MaNf6XB0o6V1AMXJt4bgefEZ5_5QcIQJaIOxbVIzR_9il/s320/1+Tinker+Bell+photo.bmp" /></a></div><br />
I recently had a conversation with a friend girl about how she views <br />
<br />
my interactions with different women that come in and out of my life. <br />
<br />
She mentioned that she cannot comprehend fully how I do it; how do I <br />
<br />
deal with so many diverse types of women, and how do I deal with the <br />
<br />
types who are obviously coming around with a competitive attitude?<br />
<br />
Like I shared with my friend girl, my way is unique, yet not <br />
<br />
unattainable!<br />
<br />
I simply accept how people are when they arrive at my front door. I <br />
<br />
do not ever get on a mission to change them. I will often encourage <br />
<br />
them towards paths that may show them life in a different light, yet <br />
<br />
you will never hear me telling any of my friends that they should do it <br />
<br />
this way or that way!<br />
<br />
And I simply do not feed into the negativity that comes with <br />
<br />
comparisons or competitive personality types!<br />
<br />
Ladies, when you walk into another woman's life, befriend her <br />
<br />
sincerely and you may actually clearly see the reason God allowed you <br />
<br />
both to cross paths. When I become a friend, I am just that. No hidden <br />
<br />
agendas; I am here and aware that God allowed you in for a reason.<br />
<br />
My advice to you all who are struggling with it is this: Pray about it. <br />
<br />
Ask God to help you not to act like that; ask God to help you not to be <br />
<br />
so judgemental and bossy; stop telling women how to be in order to <br />
<br />
fit your lifestyle and just allow them to grow into who they are to <br />
<br />
become!<br />
<br />
And of most importantly, do away with your competive ways of past <br />
<br />
female friendships and just fully embrace the women you meet on this <br />
<br />
journey we call life.<br />
<br />
<blockquote>The only female, a woman should compare herself to is her own self! <br />
<br />
Compare yourself to the little naive girl that you were years ago, to the <br />
<br />
woman that you have become today!<br />
</blockquote>Who cares if your friend girl has a seemingly better house, car or relationship? Who <br />
<br />
cares if her body is more fit or if the strands of her hair are a little <br />
<br />
longer? <br />
<br />
Stop the competitions and Do you!<br />
<br />
And allow God to show you the person you have been competing <br />
<br />
with..<br />
Ask Him to share with you why he allowed the both of you to cross <br />
<br />
each other's paths. Look for the positives and stop creating the <br />
<br />
negatives.<br />
<br />
Again my personality and ability to embrace all types of women is <br />
<br />
not something that is impossible to emulate...take down your <br />
<br />
competitive guards and just give it a try and watch how you begin to <br />
<br />
relax in the peace of mind this way of living brings about!<br />
<br />
~Mz DeeVa~<br />
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P.S. Never Judge a Book By Its Cover ;-) Hope to meet you soon!!ask DeeVahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04372396176731468470noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3212228683664525376.post-15028104028710802632011-08-02T20:21:00.000-07:002011-08-02T20:38:12.200-07:00Why Do So Many Fear Another Person's Success?<i>Here is what happens entirely too often: Someone receives a vision, <br />
<br />
writes it down, and over time the vision comes to pass, so others begin <br />
<br />
to see the vision. <br />
<br />
What happens next?<br />
<br />
You would think that congratulations would be in order...<br />
<br />
...NOT!<br />
<br />
Those who fear the vision's success fail to use the word congratulations <br />
<br />
and let it stand alone. Oh, yes, most of the time some will start out with <br />
<br />
a compliment...and then here comes their negative to sweep that <br />
<br />
compliment right on out the door!<br />
<br />
You have seen that happen before haven't you?<br />
<br />
Or, it has happened to you, right?<br />
<br />
Are you asking the seemingly simple question "But why?!"<br />
<br />
I answer you by saying 'It is simply fear.'<br />
<br />
Many I talk to who have never met me before, call it to be fear as well!<br />
<br />
You have heard me say it several times if you have tuned in to my <br />
<br />
'Relationship Talk' shows on iLast Radio...and then along came tonight's <br />
<br />
phenomenal interview with Author Oliver Reid on 'Let's Talk' and he <br />
<br />
said it as well.<br />
<br />
What I have learned in life, fear often breeds negativity. People fear <br />
<br />
where you could go, and if, if, if, they had the dream or desire to go <br />
<br />
there also, get ready for the negatives they will throw at you...yet <br />
<br />
remember, they are simply doing so based off of their own Fear!<br />
<br />
That my luv, is not your problem, it is theirs!<br />
<br />
I highly suggest you check out August 2, 2011 interview on 'Let's Talk <br />
<br />
feat Special Guest Oliver Reid' on iLast Radio! Very inspirational and you absolutely <br />
<br />
will get a clearer vision as to why people do some of the unexplainable <br />
<br />
things that they do when it comes to what you trust and know is your <br />
<br />
God given vision!<br />
<br />
Be inspired, check it out <a href="http://www.blogtalkradio.com/ilastradio/2011/08/03/lets-talk-feat-mz-deeva-ms-renee-ms-mack-ms-bapps">here</a> <br />
<br />
~Mz DeeVa~<br />
<br />
"Mz DeeVa is an U.S. Army Widow since the tragic loss of her husband November 12, 2004 in Fallujah, Iraq during Operation Iraqi Freedom. She is the author of newly released memoir 'Great Sex Is Not Love and Never Will Be' now available on Amazon.com for Kindle, on Paperback and via your Nook (www.barnesandnoble.com) <br />
Visit the Facebook fan page for weekly discounts on autographed pre-purchase copies http://www.facebook.com/mzdeeva4you <br />
And do not MISS the tour 'Never Judge a Book By Its Cover' which features Mz DeeVa's <br />
'Sex is Not Love'<br />
(Dallas, Tx 8/19...Richmond, Va 8/20...Manhattan, NY 10/15...Atlanta, Ga and London, England TBA.<br />
BOOKING has OPEN dates, email: mividadnow@gmail.com"<br />
~Team DeeVa, Texas~<br />
<br />
<br />
<br />
</i>ask DeeVahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04372396176731468470noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3212228683664525376.post-69499018855955172532011-07-18T06:51:00.000-07:002011-08-17T17:43:15.847-07:00Celibate Season: Every Single Woman Engaging in Sex Should Take a Break from Meaningless SEX!On subject of celibacy (Battle of the Sexes, iLast Radio, 7/17):<a href="http://www.blogtalkradio.com/iLastRadio"> "Every (single) woman should have a season for 'taking time off from sex' (celibate season)....if you are DOING IT all YEAR and you don't even have a damn ring (wedding/engagement)...YOU'RE CRAZEE!!" ~Mz DeeVa~ </a>:-) DeeVaIzm Quote of the weekend!! <br />
<br />
Isn't that just the TRUTH??<br />
<br />
A single woman engaging in sex without commitment, all year round, with the same partner or lord knows with multiple partners, should take a breather from sex at some point in time!<br />
<br />
I like to call it the <blockquote>"Season of Celibacy". </blockquote>Taking time to reflect on why you and this other person are having sex on a long term basis, yet have not decided to take it to another level...a step towards a real commitment.<br />
<br />
As much as some men...and some women... will argue me down that sex year in and year out without a commitment is NOT meaningless, truth be told ladies and gents, it is just that: <blockquote>MEANINGLESS SEX</blockquote>. GREAT for while it lasts, yet in the end, he chooses someone else or you choose someone else and now you have both ABUSED a part of <blockquote>GOD's GREATEST GIFT to mankind: SEX! </blockquote><br />
<a href="http://www.blogtalkradio.com/iLastRadio">"Meaningless sex, which is ALSO Great SEX at the same time but turns around into a full circle and bringing you back to the moment when you didn't know him...has NO PURPOSE!" (Mz DeeVa on iLast Radio Battle of the Sexes 7/17)</a><br />
<br />
Intimacy is NOT a recreational sport and society needs to STOP treating it like it is! Intimacy = IN TO ME YOU SEE! Intimacy says, 'here in this world of caressing, kissing and loving, I am opening up a door that goes deep and near to my soul'...how can you KEEP giving that 'special' someone a GIFT as expensive as that sounds without setting some standards towards your own self worth.<br />
<br />
AND...guess what, if you decide to have a <blockquote>Season of Celibacy</blockquote>, you do not have to BREAK up if you are in a great relationship that is simply facing 'fear to commit' from one of you...keep seeing the person, you will just have to get CREATIVE if you have been engaging in SEX already, and prepare for the struggle to do WITHOUT as he/she respects your decision to hold off.<br />
<br />
I say you do not have to break up to take a <blockquote>Season of Celibacy</blockquote>, because it is not a mandatory action in order to get your OWN mind clear as to why you are engaging in a act reserved for TRUE LOVE and ROMANCE. The only reason a break up may come is if the other person has a SERIOUS problem with the fact that you want to hold off from having sex for a while...if he/she loves you, he will NOT single ladies, she will NOT single men, have a problem with respecting your decison!<br />
<br />
Start with doing the research on the word Celibacy alone, and then, activate your own inner common sense...decide if taking a break from <blockquote>MEANINGLESS sex </blockquote>is for you...do not forget to TELL your partner if you make this decision while in a relationship! <br />
<br />
COMMUNICATE, COMMUNICATE, COMMUNICATE...<br />
<br />
And then just do it!!<br />
<br />
Take a season to take a look deep inside of you and when and if you return back to having sex, be sure you now KNOW what is FOR YOU!!<br />
<br />
~Mz DeeVa~<br />
<br />
Author of newly released memoir 'Great Sex Is Not Love and Never Will Be' now available on Amazon.com for Kindle and also on Paperback...also available on Nook (www.barnesandnobles.com) <br />
Visit the Facebook fan page for weekly discounts on autographed pre-purchase copies http://www.facebook.com/mzdeeva4you <br />
And do not MISS the tour 'Never Judge a Book By Its Cover' which features Mz DeeVa's <blockquote>'Sex is Not Love'</blockquote>(Dallas, Tx 8/19...Richmond, Va 8/20...Manhattan, NY 10/15...Atlanta, Ga and London, England TBA.<br />
BOOKING has OPEN dates, email: mividadnow@gmail.comask DeeVahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04372396176731468470noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3212228683664525376.post-77049986625320270702011-06-24T22:36:00.001-07:002019-05-16T17:41:21.626-07:00Follow me on Twitter: @MzDeeVa4youask DeeVahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04372396176731468470noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3212228683664525376.post-11385507346708172462011-06-24T21:42:00.001-07:002019-05-16T17:41:21.601-07:00Follow me on Twitter: @MzDeeVa4youask DeeVahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04372396176731468470noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3212228683664525376.post-63362627405656804222011-03-09T16:03:00.000-08:002011-03-09T16:06:35.772-08:00The Cheater<span style="font-style:italic;"></span>When he is declaring his innocence loudly, he usually has a chic on the side.<br /><br />When you ask him 'did you bang so and so' and he replies 'I would never bang that fat or ugly or broke b**ch' he has been banging her for over 2 months or more.<br /><br />Ladies, when you accuse a man, and he is innocent, his response is quiet in nature, peaceful, no argument. When he yells back...simply guilty. <br /><br />Never waste time on accusing or asking. Trust that what is done in the dark, will always come to the light.<br /><br />Put 200% behind the relationship, so if he cheats, you walk away knowing you owe him nothing less than that classy exit! ask DeeVahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04372396176731468470noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3212228683664525376.post-67133920577266774232011-02-04T13:56:00.000-08:002011-02-04T13:59:05.151-08:00The word Problem, is the Problem!<span style="font-weight:bold;"><span style="font-style:italic;"></span></span><br />The word problem is the problem!!!<br /><br />Often in relationships two people will disagree, some couples more than others.<br /><br />The right communication is key towards building a healthy realationship or restoring a broken one.<br /><br />How you approach your mate during an argument usually will determine just how long the disagreement will go on.<br /><br />A mistake many make, the problem, lies right in that ONE word, problem!<br /><br />Along with a nasty tone, saying 'what's your problem?!' is going to cause your mate to get on the instant defense! There actually is a more respectable approach that will get your answer as well as cause a positive response vs a negative one.<br /><br />The next time your woman or man seems to be having an issue that they are not communicating to you, wait for the right timing, maybe even suggesting a walk around a park or school track, a place where oxygen can flow to the brain and keep the stress level low! And then try saying this:<br /><br />"I see that something is bothering you and I am concerned baby, so, what's up? what's going on with you today?"<br /><br />And yes, verbatim would be best if this approach is NEW to you!!<br /><br />All in all, feel the cool from the winter air versus the tension and ice cold look from your partner by avoiding those dreadfully negative words, 'what's's your problem?!'<br /><br />DeAnna 'Mz DeeVa' Shields ask DeeVahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04372396176731468470noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3212228683664525376.post-65514964205591731802011-01-03T19:34:00.001-08:002011-06-24T11:57:56.163-07:00Virtual Dating<i>Virtual Dating tips from Mz Deeva<br />
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-1st Have several, several intense conversations via Email or IM before sharing your number.<br />
Ask detailed questions and leave room in your heart before you fall for him/her to discover the truth when/if you actually meet and spend weeks REALLY getting to know him/her.<br />
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-Exchange numbers once you are clear that they meet your initial 'narrow your choices down' standards<br />
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If local<br />
choose a coffee shop for first meeting. Do not use each other's apartments or houses to meet up. Too soon for that!<br />
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If out of state<br />
*Dont date out of reasonable travel zones unless you discovered by intense conversation and date 1 and 2 you can both afford to do so!<br />
Date 1: He comes to your state, gets a hotel n rents a car<br />
Date 2: You go to his state, get a hotel room, n rent a car <br />
Oh, and plz do not stay over at the hotel or his/her place on Date 1 and 2! ;-)<br />
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On safety: <br />
Always let your close friend or family member know of any plans to meet your new virtual friend alone. I have a friend girl I can text when I go on dates even if we haven't talked in months! <br />
Be accounted for when meeting a guy/girl online...not all folks are in their right mind!<br />
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On the subject of sex:<br />
-If you met him/her online, spend at least 6 months before allowing any making out. Weak people will tell you it's impossible. Please hear this strong woman when I say, keep the dates creative and full of adventure and this time will pass by before you know it!<br />
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Moving in with him/her:<br />
-Let me talk straight to my independent yet lonely ladies on this one, ok? Men take notes and apply accordingly.<br />
Ladies, please do not allow some guy from out of state or even locally to get in your head about coming to spend a week, month or two with you in order to get to know you better! <br />
That is the most popular line 'virtual liars' use!<br />
A real man will have his living situation in order and can date you from afar.<br />
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You get me on that?<br />
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He has no reason at all to move in YOUR place or even move you in HIS place, just to get to know you better! <br />
The game is played so they can either, leave the woman they met a couple months back online, who is about to boot them out because they found out his game...or....he just split with his ex and is trying to move you in to help with that now one sided financial burden.<br />
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More is in my book coming this summer I had to share since it is hot topic this evening!<br />
Ladies and Gents, OnLine date wisely! And know a 'Virtual Liar' when you see him 'Typing' up!!!<br />
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~<b>Mz DeeVa</b>~</i><br />
Web Talk Radio Hostess of iLast Radio segments like 'Relationship Talk', 'Let's Talk', and 'Battle of the Sexes', and new Authoress of memoir 'Great Sex Is Not Love and Never Will Be!' and upcoming Relationship Book: 'So Your Heart's Been Broken? Please Get Back Out There!'<br />
Follow Mz DeeVa on Twitter: @MzDeeva4you for more or like her fan page 'Mz DeeVa' on www.facebook.com/mzdeeva4you as well as join her book club on Facebook 'Great Sex Is Not Love Book Club'ask DeeVahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04372396176731468470noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3212228683664525376.post-34818720818986040762010-12-30T08:58:00.000-08:002010-12-30T09:18:04.269-08:00In Europe and Tired of a Married Man's Advances<strong><em>Mz DeeVa:<br />"...my friend's husband wont leave me alone, He keeps sending me messages. He has been trying to get with me for years I managed to keep him off but recently he got a hold of my number and he wont let off with the messages...."<br /><br />Dear Frustrated in Europe:<br />Hey lady! That is going on like crazy here in Central Texas also! <br />Men like that have to be ignored at all levels! Dont even tell them to stop texting because their shallow minds hear 'she wants me bad!' <br />....most important; tell the friend!...<br />I sat on a 3 way call, where my friend told our other girlfriend of what her husband was doing a year ago; and she checked him...of course, some dogs keep it in him, so he is now back hitting same female up by email, along with some other friend girls he found on her Facebook friend's list!<br /><br />Ignore men like that on all levels, it is truly the only thing that MAY work! <br /><br />Mz DeeVa:<br />"if I tell her she will think its me leading him on. I am so fed up with this nonsense. I have married idiots at work chasing me, 3 of them, no matter how much I tell them to lay off, they wont."<br /><br />Dear Frustrated in Europe:<br />I know your frustration and believe me, it is not you, those men have greediness issues, cannot just be happy with who God gave them; so they want to come have some 'jump off' fun for a few months and Sundays until their guilt sets in with the first lady victim who will fall for their crap!<br /><br />Right thing to do: Tell the wife, she will be angry now, but I promise you, I have had thank you calls years later, from 2 exact same situations! Wives will call and say 'thank you' when they finally grow tired of the games. In your current situation, your friend, the wife, already knows or suspects that he is up to something, that is the way of woman!!<br />So tell her; and show her email and text proof if she asks for it....and then walk in to 2011 with that being THEIR mess and not yours ma. <br /><br />Hoping this post helps many women in the same predicament. Feel free always to email your questions to me direct at: mividanow@gmail.com or DM to me on Twitter, as well as Facebook or Myspace them!<br /><br />~Mz DeeVa~<br /><br />http://www.blogtalkradio.com/mzdeeva4you<br />http://deevaizms.blogspot.com<br />http://www.twitter.com/MzDeeVa4you<br />http://www.myspace.com/brownsugah09</em></strong>ask DeeVahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04372396176731468470noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3212228683664525376.post-41528909263803399352010-12-28T00:43:00.000-08:002010-12-28T00:57:44.806-08:00The Right Brain vs the Left Brain in Relationships according to Mz DeeVa<strong></strong><em></em>Often times we enter into relationships and we fail to take enough time to get to know who we are, let alone figure out who the other person we are getting to know is! <br /><br />My theory is that knowing whether or not you are Right Brain, Left Brain or <br />some combination of both is a critical link to minimizing the CONFUSION that <br />tends to go on in the COMMUNICATION process of dating and relationships <br />with others!<br /><br />Now know this, it is not too late to test my theory if you are already years into <br />the relationship or even married. The discovery point of learning that how you <br />think and how your mate thinks is a great one!! It really makes a HUGE difference in the success or lack of success of your relationship AND could put an end to never ending arguments and bring the romance back that has long since faded away!!<br /><br />So here we go...<br /><br />First, here are the characteristics of the Left Brainers and the Right Brainers.<br /><br /><br />Left brain tend to be more logical, carrying these traits:<br /><br />-Logical<br /><br />-Sequential<br /><br />-Rational<br /><br />-Analytical<br /><br />-Objective<br /><br />-Looks at parts<br /><br />Right Brain tend to be more Intuitive, carrying these traits: <br /><br />-Random<br /><br />-Intuitive<br /><br />-Holistic<br />Synthesizing<br /><br />-Subjective<br /><br />-Looks at wholes<br /><br />Now, discover if you are more of a Right Brain or a Left Brain person by going <br />online and taking this quick and HARMLESS quiz:<br /><br />http://www.intelliscript.net/test_area/questionnaire/questionnaire.cgi <br /><br />and then return back to me for my theory....<br /><br />At the end of the quiz, you were given a scale that showed you whether or not <br />you were a Left Brainer, Right Brainer or both.<br /><br />Now....here is the solution beginning to unfold...Have your partner take the <br />same test. AND....if he/she refuses to, and you have known them long enough, <br />and know quite a bit about their personality and ways, try taking the test as if <br />you are them (less likely to be successful in solving your issues if you cannot get <br />them to take the test, yet, it will help you understand them more, which is your <br />goal in the first place! -_-<br /><br />One tip I will share about the Left Brainer. As you see psychologists have <br />discovered, Left Brainers think in parts....YET, they are so logical and so very <br />analytical and objective, they will argue me down on this point to a T...The fact <br />that Left Brainers think in parts, they tend not to see the WHOLE picture of <br />what is actually going on!! They will make a conclusion on the situation based <br />on the very few parts they see of it, and will not fairly GRASP the whole <br />situation!! <br /><br />Wondering how that has any impact on your relationship?<br /><br />Because the Left Brainer lacks a lot of emotion and tends to choose the rational <br />way of thinking in most arguments or disagreements, they are not going to <br />FEEL as much as the Right Brainer will, nor will they see the WHOLE situation <br />right up front. It is not to say that you will not get your point across, because if <br />you can TRULY understand this about the Left Brainer you will learn how to do <br />so; it is just simply saying as the initial disagreement takes place, the Left <br />Brainer is going to stand his/her ground because deep down inside, they <br />honestly feel they are right! It will take the Right Brainer's patience and <br />willingness to love them enough or care enough to see the Left Brainer through <br />ALL parts of the discussion in order to get their point across!<br /><br />Now, I am still currently studying for my Bachelor's in Guidance Counseling, but <br />that is the information I have studied throughout my Associates in Social Work <br />Specialization studies and I find it to be ironic that the study of Left Brainers <br />vs Right Brainers has a SERIOUS impact on how 2 people can successfully <br />understand each other more in the dating and marriage process, yet I stand <br />strong on my conclusion that it will make a HUGE difference on the <br />COMMUNICATION side of things knowing which side of the brain dominates, for you and your partner!<br /><br />~Mz DeeVa, Blog Talk Radio Host~ask DeeVahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04372396176731468470noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3212228683664525376.post-80265215718334918512010-12-20T09:04:00.000-08:002010-12-20T09:41:21.255-08:00'Tis the Season To Do Away With Unnecessary Competitions!<span style="font-style:italic;"></span> I find this season bringing me extreme peace and self satisfaction! Yet, I look around me and soon learn that those swimming with me in this sea of happiness are few and far between!<br />See, I am a web Talk Radio Host (www.blogtalkradio.com/mzdeeva4you) and my main subject on near all of my segments is the word many fear to talk about in excess: Relationships!<br /><br />So as I stream my podcast live each week, I get quite a few callers who will call in and share their thoughts and opinions on the current Relationship topics presented. What seems to happen often, with the men and the women, is an air of competition!!! Mz Deeva may be bringing the topic but I am going to call into her show to show her fans how wrong she is on her outlook on these issues <br />The ones who tend to go against me the most, are the ones I expose often. The 'Relationship Game Players', the 'Satisfied Female Jump Offs', the ones who are indeed guilty of the topic I am sharing and so they fear that truth being exposed, thus following, the competition Live on air!!!<br /><br />Can we not just all get along in the world of talk radio?!<br /><br />Though mine is called the Battle of the Sexes, I have shared with you often, we consider it simply 'a friendly engagement between the sexes' Need I change the name in order to bring about a geniune respect for the host on the panel?! Hmmm...<br /><br />One thing I am well known and respected for on and off BlogTalkRadio.com is that when I am a guest on someone else's show or stage, I never try to downplay or outshine the host. I stand strong in my own opinion I am sharing without ever once having to ridicule or put down the host who invited me to share in discussing their hot topic!<br />Know when to compete, and first and foremost gain the knowledge of how to RESPECT other's platforms and you will indeed go a very long way in the circle of life!!!<br /><br />Mz DeeVa, Blog Talk Radio Host and Co-Host of 'Late Night Blog Talking' at Obok in Killeen/FtHood, TXask DeeVahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04372396176731468470noreply@blogger.com1