He has 'commitment phobia', should she wait?

She utters the word commitment and he quickly changes the subject or better yet runs from the room....yes, yes, he probably has commitment phobia!!!

The question is, if he has it, should she stick around?!

Ladies, at the end of the day, it will be your individual choice. First and foremost, you have to ask yourself are you settling with this type for sake of love or are you staying the course for fear of being alone?

A woman in love is on one of those paths, no one can really control but her. Friends have to be supportive and family has to love on them even more if the one you see her in love with is an apparent bad choice. Because truth is, while she is blinded by love, she will not see it. It will take her own heart jolting experience with the guy to decide if she is going to stay or go.

And for the lady who is choosing to wait around for a guy with this phobia, for fear of being alone, my simple answer is...you are not quite ready to date...you have to step back and evaluate what causes you to fear being alone, and what are you really expecting the guy you fall for to give you if he commits? Spend some time alone, away from this guy you claim you love, and tap deeper into your fear of being alone.

It could be a great thing to leave him if he is stringing her along, because when she is alone, and not attached to his side...the guy that can love her and can commit without hesistation may be able to finally SEE her!!

Men, with commitment phobia while already in the relationship, please do ask yourself this question...do you have commitment phobia? Or are you having a lot of fun being carefree and not forcing yourself to make the decision to settle down with her?

Did that confuse any guy reading this? Here is more...men, if you have commitment phobia while in a relationship, you usually do not continue to meet other women at bars and online. You generally spend time with the girl in question or time with your friends outside of work. You know you love her, yet, you are fearful of a long term relationship with her.

The opposite of that: online flirting and chatting, hanging out at bars with single friends or married cheating friends and filling up your phone with potential new dates...that my dear, is not commitment phobia, you are simply...

...a player!!

And that would be another blog!

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ms deeVA