Monday, January 3, 2011

Virtual Dating

Virtual Dating tips from Mz Deeva

-1st Have several, several intense conversations via Email or IM before sharing your number.
Ask detailed questions and leave room in your heart before you fall for him/her to discover the truth when/if you actually meet and spend weeks REALLY getting to know him/her.

-Exchange numbers once you are clear that they meet your initial 'narrow your choices down' standards
 
If local
choose a coffee shop for first meeting.  Do not use each other's apartments or houses to meet up. Too soon for that!

If out of state
*Dont date out of reasonable travel zones unless you discovered by intense conversation and date 1 and 2 you can both afford to do so!
Date 1: He comes to your state, gets a hotel n rents a car
Date 2: You go to his state, get a hotel room, n rent a car 
Oh, and plz do not stay over at the hotel or his/her place on Date 1 and 2! ;-)

On safety: 
Always let your close friend or family member know of any plans to meet your new virtual friend alone. I have a friend girl I can text when I go on dates even if we haven't talked in months! 
Be accounted for when meeting a guy/girl online...not all folks are in their right mind!

On the subject of sex:
-If you met him/her online, spend at least 6 months before allowing any making out. Weak people will tell you it's impossible. Please hear this strong woman when I say, keep the dates creative and full of adventure and this time will pass by before you know it!

Moving in with him/her:
-Let me talk straight to my independent yet lonely ladies on this one, ok? Men take notes  and apply accordingly.
Ladies, please do not allow some guy from out of state or even locally to get in your head about coming to spend a week, month or two with you in order to get to know you better! 
That is the most popular line 'virtual liars' use!
A real man will have his living situation in order and can date you from afar.
 
You get me on that?
 
He has no reason at all to move in YOUR place or even move you in HIS place, just to get to know you better! 
The game is played so they can either, leave the woman they met a couple months back online, who is about to boot them out because they found out his game...or....he just split with his ex and is trying to move you in to help with that now one sided financial burden.

More is in my book coming this summer  I had to share since it is hot topic this evening!
Ladies and Gents, OnLine date wisely! And know a 'Virtual Liar' when you see him 'Typing' up!!!

~Mz DeeVa~

Web Talk Radio Hostess of iLast Radio segments like 'Relationship Talk', 'Let's Talk', and 'Battle of the Sexes', and new Authoress of memoir 'Great Sex Is Not Love and Never Will Be!' and upcoming Relationship Book: 'So Your Heart's Been Broken? Please Get Back Out There!'
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