Black women going Natural, is it all of sudden MANDATORY?

I have many thoughts, but I would say most of all, women make your choice and wear your style with confidence, no matter what it is: weave or natural. Main thing is keep it in order, keep it neat, that is key to any style a woman chooses...if you are one who has moved on past chemicals, that is a good thing, but a woman who wears weaves and has TOTAL self confidence is just as good! Whatever style you choose, wear it, and a woman who has not reached your decision level on it, may see something in your confidence, not necessarily your style, that will encourage her to try it too. What we do as women is all about example, REMEMBER, everyone has different levels of deliverance, so set the example you feel works best...and trust me when I say, GOD WILL DO THE REST!!!

Sisters just have to remember to encourage, encourage, encourage each other...who in the world do we think died and made us the 'you better wear your hair this way' God? Not saying that in a mean way, just really think about it, why must the ENTIRE world do it your way, because it works for you...well best way you can make that point is to flaunt it ladies and the 'proof will indeed be in your pudding'!

Support your sisters style if it looks good, weave, wig or natural...that positive move alone, support, goes a very long way!

mz deeVA

Did this bloggin guy just say women who love attention, have low self esteem??

And I quote:
ATTENTION, iz somth'n dat a "WOMAN" cravez... Once, the attention iz not factor'd n2 a "WOMAN'Z" life (low self-esteem)... They result 2 alot of different thingz... Ur a "WOMAN"... Do I need 2 elaborate any mor...END QUOTE

Hmmmmm????

So I chose to send him my thoughts, though I had many more, I will sit back and see what my readers will contribute...here is what I gave him...

My reply 2 his mania:

Hmmm, on the 'attention'...to me, women have laid down for hours of labor sometimes for the man they love and yet, he still manages to ignore her...women have cooked, cleaned and catered to the man she loves, and yet he goes to hang with his boys at the club/strip club rather than give her attention...women have stayed faithful to the man she loves for years and years and years, only to get why can't you do this like so and so wife or this like my sister or mother from the man she loves....



sometimes, ATTENTION, is just the ONE simple gift, the other guy has to offer, that a woman, who is not a cheater at heart, falls for so easily...especially when the ONE she loves, overlooked that simple need: ATTENTION.



Your bulletin was fun to read, decipher should I say...lol...but I had to comeback with my thoughts to your opinion...sigh, it is what a writer does best!!!



Have a great week!

wow, huh??

K readers, give me your thoughts on this one!!!

ms deeVa

He has 'commitment phobia', should she wait?

She utters the word commitment and he quickly changes the subject or better yet runs from the room....yes, yes, he probably has commitment phobia!!!

The question is, if he has it, should she stick around?!

Ladies, at the end of the day, it will be your individual choice. First and foremost, you have to ask yourself are you settling with this type for sake of love or are you staying the course for fear of being alone?

A woman in love is on one of those paths, no one can really control but her. Friends have to be supportive and family has to love on them even more if the one you see her in love with is an apparent bad choice. Because truth is, while she is blinded by love, she will not see it. It will take her own heart jolting experience with the guy to decide if she is going to stay or go.

And for the lady who is choosing to wait around for a guy with this phobia, for fear of being alone, my simple answer is...you are not quite ready to date...you have to step back and evaluate what causes you to fear being alone, and what are you really expecting the guy you fall for to give you if he commits? Spend some time alone, away from this guy you claim you love, and tap deeper into your fear of being alone.

It could be a great thing to leave him if he is stringing her along, because when she is alone, and not attached to his side...the guy that can love her and can commit without hesistation may be able to finally SEE her!!

Men, with commitment phobia while already in the relationship, please do ask yourself this question...do you have commitment phobia? Or are you having a lot of fun being carefree and not forcing yourself to make the decision to settle down with her?

Did that confuse any guy reading this? Here is more...men, if you have commitment phobia while in a relationship, you usually do not continue to meet other women at bars and online. You generally spend time with the girl in question or time with your friends outside of work. You know you love her, yet, you are fearful of a long term relationship with her.

The opposite of that: online flirting and chatting, hanging out at bars with single friends or married cheating friends and filling up your phone with potential new dates...that my dear, is not commitment phobia, you are simply...

...a player!!

And that would be another blog!

Share your thoughts readers!

ms deeVA