Here is what happens entirely too often: Someone receives a vision,
writes it down, and over time the vision comes to pass, so others begin
to see the vision.
What happens next?
You would think that congratulations would be in order...
...NOT!
Those who fear the vision's success fail to use the word congratulations
and let it stand alone. Oh, yes, most of the time some will start out with
a compliment...and then here comes their negative to sweep that
compliment right on out the door!
You have seen that happen before haven't you?
Or, it has happened to you, right?
Are you asking the seemingly simple question "But why?!"
I answer you by saying 'It is simply fear.'
Many I talk to who have never met me before, call it to be fear as well!
You have heard me say it several times if you have tuned in to my
'Relationship Talk' shows on iLast Radio...and then along came tonight's
phenomenal interview with Author Oliver Reid on 'Let's Talk' and he
said it as well.
What I have learned in life, fear often breeds negativity. People fear
where you could go, and if, if, if, they had the dream or desire to go
there also, get ready for the negatives they will throw at you...yet
remember, they are simply doing so based off of their own Fear!
That my luv, is not your problem, it is theirs!
I highly suggest you check out August 2, 2011 interview on 'Let's Talk
feat Special Guest Oliver Reid' on iLast Radio! Very inspirational and you absolutely
will get a clearer vision as to why people do some of the unexplainable
things that they do when it comes to what you trust and know is your
God given vision!
Be inspired, check it out here
~Mz DeeVa~
"Mz DeeVa is an U.S. Army Widow since the tragic loss of her husband November 12, 2004 in Fallujah, Iraq during Operation Iraqi Freedom. She is the author of newly released memoir 'Great Sex Is Not Love and Never Will Be' now available on Amazon.com for Kindle, on Paperback and via your Nook (www.barnesandnoble.com)
Visit the Facebook fan page for weekly discounts on autographed pre-purchase copies http://www.facebook.com/mzdeeva4you
And do not MISS the tour 'Never Judge a Book By Its Cover' which features Mz DeeVa's
'Sex is Not Love'
(Dallas, Tx 8/19...Richmond, Va 8/20...Manhattan, NY 10/15...Atlanta, Ga and London, England TBA.
BOOKING has OPEN dates, email: mividadnow@gmail.com"
~Team DeeVa, Texas~
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Tuesday, August 2, 2011
Monday, January 3, 2011
Virtual Dating
Virtual Dating tips from Mz Deeva
-1st Have several, several intense conversations via Email or IM before sharing your number.
Ask detailed questions and leave room in your heart before you fall for him/her to discover the truth when/if you actually meet and spend weeks REALLY getting to know him/her.
-Exchange numbers once you are clear that they meet your initial 'narrow your choices down' standards
If local
choose a coffee shop for first meeting. Do not use each other's apartments or houses to meet up. Too soon for that!
If out of state
*Dont date out of reasonable travel zones unless you discovered by intense conversation and date 1 and 2 you can both afford to do so!
Date 1: He comes to your state, gets a hotel n rents a car
Date 2: You go to his state, get a hotel room, n rent a car
Oh, and plz do not stay over at the hotel or his/her place on Date 1 and 2! ;-)
On safety:
Always let your close friend or family member know of any plans to meet your new virtual friend alone. I have a friend girl I can text when I go on dates even if we haven't talked in months!
Be accounted for when meeting a guy/girl online...not all folks are in their right mind!
On the subject of sex:
-If you met him/her online, spend at least 6 months before allowing any making out. Weak people will tell you it's impossible. Please hear this strong woman when I say, keep the dates creative and full of adventure and this time will pass by before you know it!
Moving in with him/her:
-Let me talk straight to my independent yet lonely ladies on this one, ok? Men take notes and apply accordingly.
Ladies, please do not allow some guy from out of state or even locally to get in your head about coming to spend a week, month or two with you in order to get to know you better!
That is the most popular line 'virtual liars' use!
A real man will have his living situation in order and can date you from afar.
You get me on that?
He has no reason at all to move in YOUR place or even move you in HIS place, just to get to know you better!
The game is played so they can either, leave the woman they met a couple months back online, who is about to boot them out because they found out his game...or....he just split with his ex and is trying to move you in to help with that now one sided financial burden.
More is in my book coming this summer I had to share since it is hot topic this evening!
Ladies and Gents, OnLine date wisely! And know a 'Virtual Liar' when you see him 'Typing' up!!!
~Mz DeeVa~
Web Talk Radio Hostess of iLast Radio segments like 'Relationship Talk', 'Let's Talk', and 'Battle of the Sexes', and new Authoress of memoir 'Great Sex Is Not Love and Never Will Be!' and upcoming Relationship Book: 'So Your Heart's Been Broken? Please Get Back Out There!'
Follow Mz DeeVa on Twitter: @MzDeeva4you for more or like her fan page 'Mz DeeVa' on www.facebook.com/mzdeeva4you as well as join her book club on Facebook 'Great Sex Is Not Love Book Club'
-1st Have several, several intense conversations via Email or IM before sharing your number.
Ask detailed questions and leave room in your heart before you fall for him/her to discover the truth when/if you actually meet and spend weeks REALLY getting to know him/her.
-Exchange numbers once you are clear that they meet your initial 'narrow your choices down' standards
If local
choose a coffee shop for first meeting. Do not use each other's apartments or houses to meet up. Too soon for that!
If out of state
*Dont date out of reasonable travel zones unless you discovered by intense conversation and date 1 and 2 you can both afford to do so!
Date 1: He comes to your state, gets a hotel n rents a car
Date 2: You go to his state, get a hotel room, n rent a car
Oh, and plz do not stay over at the hotel or his/her place on Date 1 and 2! ;-)
On safety:
Always let your close friend or family member know of any plans to meet your new virtual friend alone. I have a friend girl I can text when I go on dates even if we haven't talked in months!
Be accounted for when meeting a guy/girl online...not all folks are in their right mind!
On the subject of sex:
-If you met him/her online, spend at least 6 months before allowing any making out. Weak people will tell you it's impossible. Please hear this strong woman when I say, keep the dates creative and full of adventure and this time will pass by before you know it!
Moving in with him/her:
-Let me talk straight to my independent yet lonely ladies on this one, ok? Men take notes and apply accordingly.
Ladies, please do not allow some guy from out of state or even locally to get in your head about coming to spend a week, month or two with you in order to get to know you better!
That is the most popular line 'virtual liars' use!
A real man will have his living situation in order and can date you from afar.
You get me on that?
He has no reason at all to move in YOUR place or even move you in HIS place, just to get to know you better!
The game is played so they can either, leave the woman they met a couple months back online, who is about to boot them out because they found out his game...or....he just split with his ex and is trying to move you in to help with that now one sided financial burden.
More is in my book coming this summer I had to share since it is hot topic this evening!
Ladies and Gents, OnLine date wisely! And know a 'Virtual Liar' when you see him 'Typing' up!!!
~Mz DeeVa~
Web Talk Radio Hostess of iLast Radio segments like 'Relationship Talk', 'Let's Talk', and 'Battle of the Sexes', and new Authoress of memoir 'Great Sex Is Not Love and Never Will Be!' and upcoming Relationship Book: 'So Your Heart's Been Broken? Please Get Back Out There!'
Follow Mz DeeVa on Twitter: @MzDeeva4you for more or like her fan page 'Mz DeeVa' on www.facebook.com/mzdeeva4you as well as join her book club on Facebook 'Great Sex Is Not Love Book Club'
Thursday, December 30, 2010
In Europe and Tired of a Married Man's Advances
Mz DeeVa:
"...my friend's husband wont leave me alone, He keeps sending me messages. He has been trying to get with me for years I managed to keep him off but recently he got a hold of my number and he wont let off with the messages...."
Dear Frustrated in Europe:
Hey lady! That is going on like crazy here in Central Texas also!
Men like that have to be ignored at all levels! Dont even tell them to stop texting because their shallow minds hear 'she wants me bad!'
....most important; tell the friend!...
I sat on a 3 way call, where my friend told our other girlfriend of what her husband was doing a year ago; and she checked him...of course, some dogs keep it in him, so he is now back hitting same female up by email, along with some other friend girls he found on her Facebook friend's list!
Ignore men like that on all levels, it is truly the only thing that MAY work!
Mz DeeVa:
"if I tell her she will think its me leading him on. I am so fed up with this nonsense. I have married idiots at work chasing me, 3 of them, no matter how much I tell them to lay off, they wont."
Dear Frustrated in Europe:
I know your frustration and believe me, it is not you, those men have greediness issues, cannot just be happy with who God gave them; so they want to come have some 'jump off' fun for a few months and Sundays until their guilt sets in with the first lady victim who will fall for their crap!
Right thing to do: Tell the wife, she will be angry now, but I promise you, I have had thank you calls years later, from 2 exact same situations! Wives will call and say 'thank you' when they finally grow tired of the games. In your current situation, your friend, the wife, already knows or suspects that he is up to something, that is the way of woman!!
So tell her; and show her email and text proof if she asks for it....and then walk in to 2011 with that being THEIR mess and not yours ma.
Hoping this post helps many women in the same predicament. Feel free always to email your questions to me direct at: mividanow@gmail.com or DM to me on Twitter, as well as Facebook or Myspace them!
~Mz DeeVa~
http://www.blogtalkradio.com/mzdeeva4you
http://deevaizms.blogspot.com
http://www.twitter.com/MzDeeVa4you
http://www.myspace.com/brownsugah09
"...my friend's husband wont leave me alone, He keeps sending me messages. He has been trying to get with me for years I managed to keep him off but recently he got a hold of my number and he wont let off with the messages...."
Dear Frustrated in Europe:
Hey lady! That is going on like crazy here in Central Texas also!
Men like that have to be ignored at all levels! Dont even tell them to stop texting because their shallow minds hear 'she wants me bad!'
....most important; tell the friend!...
I sat on a 3 way call, where my friend told our other girlfriend of what her husband was doing a year ago; and she checked him...of course, some dogs keep it in him, so he is now back hitting same female up by email, along with some other friend girls he found on her Facebook friend's list!
Ignore men like that on all levels, it is truly the only thing that MAY work!
Mz DeeVa:
"if I tell her she will think its me leading him on. I am so fed up with this nonsense. I have married idiots at work chasing me, 3 of them, no matter how much I tell them to lay off, they wont."
Dear Frustrated in Europe:
I know your frustration and believe me, it is not you, those men have greediness issues, cannot just be happy with who God gave them; so they want to come have some 'jump off' fun for a few months and Sundays until their guilt sets in with the first lady victim who will fall for their crap!
Right thing to do: Tell the wife, she will be angry now, but I promise you, I have had thank you calls years later, from 2 exact same situations! Wives will call and say 'thank you' when they finally grow tired of the games. In your current situation, your friend, the wife, already knows or suspects that he is up to something, that is the way of woman!!
So tell her; and show her email and text proof if she asks for it....and then walk in to 2011 with that being THEIR mess and not yours ma.
Hoping this post helps many women in the same predicament. Feel free always to email your questions to me direct at: mividanow@gmail.com or DM to me on Twitter, as well as Facebook or Myspace them!
~Mz DeeVa~
http://www.blogtalkradio.com/mzdeeva4you
http://deevaizms.blogspot.com
http://www.twitter.com/MzDeeVa4you
http://www.myspace.com/brownsugah09
Tuesday, December 28, 2010
The Right Brain vs the Left Brain in Relationships according to Mz DeeVa
Often times we enter into relationships and we fail to take enough time to get to know who we are, let alone figure out who the other person we are getting to know is!
My theory is that knowing whether or not you are Right Brain, Left Brain or
some combination of both is a critical link to minimizing the CONFUSION that
tends to go on in the COMMUNICATION process of dating and relationships
with others!
Now know this, it is not too late to test my theory if you are already years into
the relationship or even married. The discovery point of learning that how you
think and how your mate thinks is a great one!! It really makes a HUGE difference in the success or lack of success of your relationship AND could put an end to never ending arguments and bring the romance back that has long since faded away!!
So here we go...
First, here are the characteristics of the Left Brainers and the Right Brainers.
Left brain tend to be more logical, carrying these traits:
-Logical
-Sequential
-Rational
-Analytical
-Objective
-Looks at parts
Right Brain tend to be more Intuitive, carrying these traits:
-Random
-Intuitive
-Holistic
Synthesizing
-Subjective
-Looks at wholes
Now, discover if you are more of a Right Brain or a Left Brain person by going
online and taking this quick and HARMLESS quiz:
http://www.intelliscript.net/test_area/questionnaire/questionnaire.cgi
and then return back to me for my theory....
At the end of the quiz, you were given a scale that showed you whether or not
you were a Left Brainer, Right Brainer or both.
Now....here is the solution beginning to unfold...Have your partner take the
same test. AND....if he/she refuses to, and you have known them long enough,
and know quite a bit about their personality and ways, try taking the test as if
you are them (less likely to be successful in solving your issues if you cannot get
them to take the test, yet, it will help you understand them more, which is your
goal in the first place! -_-
One tip I will share about the Left Brainer. As you see psychologists have
discovered, Left Brainers think in parts....YET, they are so logical and so very
analytical and objective, they will argue me down on this point to a T...The fact
that Left Brainers think in parts, they tend not to see the WHOLE picture of
what is actually going on!! They will make a conclusion on the situation based
on the very few parts they see of it, and will not fairly GRASP the whole
situation!!
Wondering how that has any impact on your relationship?
Because the Left Brainer lacks a lot of emotion and tends to choose the rational
way of thinking in most arguments or disagreements, they are not going to
FEEL as much as the Right Brainer will, nor will they see the WHOLE situation
right up front. It is not to say that you will not get your point across, because if
you can TRULY understand this about the Left Brainer you will learn how to do
so; it is just simply saying as the initial disagreement takes place, the Left
Brainer is going to stand his/her ground because deep down inside, they
honestly feel they are right! It will take the Right Brainer's patience and
willingness to love them enough or care enough to see the Left Brainer through
ALL parts of the discussion in order to get their point across!
Now, I am still currently studying for my Bachelor's in Guidance Counseling, but
that is the information I have studied throughout my Associates in Social Work
Specialization studies and I find it to be ironic that the study of Left Brainers
vs Right Brainers has a SERIOUS impact on how 2 people can successfully
understand each other more in the dating and marriage process, yet I stand
strong on my conclusion that it will make a HUGE difference on the
COMMUNICATION side of things knowing which side of the brain dominates, for you and your partner!
~Mz DeeVa, Blog Talk Radio Host~
My theory is that knowing whether or not you are Right Brain, Left Brain or
some combination of both is a critical link to minimizing the CONFUSION that
tends to go on in the COMMUNICATION process of dating and relationships
with others!
Now know this, it is not too late to test my theory if you are already years into
the relationship or even married. The discovery point of learning that how you
think and how your mate thinks is a great one!! It really makes a HUGE difference in the success or lack of success of your relationship AND could put an end to never ending arguments and bring the romance back that has long since faded away!!
So here we go...
First, here are the characteristics of the Left Brainers and the Right Brainers.
Left brain tend to be more logical, carrying these traits:
-Logical
-Sequential
-Rational
-Analytical
-Objective
-Looks at parts
Right Brain tend to be more Intuitive, carrying these traits:
-Random
-Intuitive
-Holistic
Synthesizing
-Subjective
-Looks at wholes
Now, discover if you are more of a Right Brain or a Left Brain person by going
online and taking this quick and HARMLESS quiz:
http://www.intelliscript.net/test_area/questionnaire/questionnaire.cgi
and then return back to me for my theory....
At the end of the quiz, you were given a scale that showed you whether or not
you were a Left Brainer, Right Brainer or both.
Now....here is the solution beginning to unfold...Have your partner take the
same test. AND....if he/she refuses to, and you have known them long enough,
and know quite a bit about their personality and ways, try taking the test as if
you are them (less likely to be successful in solving your issues if you cannot get
them to take the test, yet, it will help you understand them more, which is your
goal in the first place! -_-
One tip I will share about the Left Brainer. As you see psychologists have
discovered, Left Brainers think in parts....YET, they are so logical and so very
analytical and objective, they will argue me down on this point to a T...The fact
that Left Brainers think in parts, they tend not to see the WHOLE picture of
what is actually going on!! They will make a conclusion on the situation based
on the very few parts they see of it, and will not fairly GRASP the whole
situation!!
Wondering how that has any impact on your relationship?
Because the Left Brainer lacks a lot of emotion and tends to choose the rational
way of thinking in most arguments or disagreements, they are not going to
FEEL as much as the Right Brainer will, nor will they see the WHOLE situation
right up front. It is not to say that you will not get your point across, because if
you can TRULY understand this about the Left Brainer you will learn how to do
so; it is just simply saying as the initial disagreement takes place, the Left
Brainer is going to stand his/her ground because deep down inside, they
honestly feel they are right! It will take the Right Brainer's patience and
willingness to love them enough or care enough to see the Left Brainer through
ALL parts of the discussion in order to get their point across!
Now, I am still currently studying for my Bachelor's in Guidance Counseling, but
that is the information I have studied throughout my Associates in Social Work
Specialization studies and I find it to be ironic that the study of Left Brainers
vs Right Brainers has a SERIOUS impact on how 2 people can successfully
understand each other more in the dating and marriage process, yet I stand
strong on my conclusion that it will make a HUGE difference on the
COMMUNICATION side of things knowing which side of the brain dominates, for you and your partner!
~Mz DeeVa, Blog Talk Radio Host~
Monday, December 20, 2010
'Tis the Season To Do Away With Unnecessary Competitions!
I find this season bringing me extreme peace and self satisfaction! Yet, I look around me and soon learn that those swimming with me in this sea of happiness are few and far between!
See, I am a web Talk Radio Host (www.blogtalkradio.com/mzdeeva4you) and my main subject on near all of my segments is the word many fear to talk about in excess: Relationships!
So as I stream my podcast live each week, I get quite a few callers who will call in and share their thoughts and opinions on the current Relationship topics presented. What seems to happen often, with the men and the women, is an air of competition!!! Mz Deeva may be bringing the topic but I am going to call into her show to show her fans how wrong she is on her outlook on these issues
The ones who tend to go against me the most, are the ones I expose often. The 'Relationship Game Players', the 'Satisfied Female Jump Offs', the ones who are indeed guilty of the topic I am sharing and so they fear that truth being exposed, thus following, the competition Live on air!!!
Can we not just all get along in the world of talk radio?!
Though mine is called the Battle of the Sexes, I have shared with you often, we consider it simply 'a friendly engagement between the sexes' Need I change the name in order to bring about a geniune respect for the host on the panel?! Hmmm...
One thing I am well known and respected for on and off BlogTalkRadio.com is that when I am a guest on someone else's show or stage, I never try to downplay or outshine the host. I stand strong in my own opinion I am sharing without ever once having to ridicule or put down the host who invited me to share in discussing their hot topic!
Know when to compete, and first and foremost gain the knowledge of how to RESPECT other's platforms and you will indeed go a very long way in the circle of life!!!
Mz DeeVa, Blog Talk Radio Host and Co-Host of 'Late Night Blog Talking' at Obok in Killeen/FtHood, TX
See, I am a web Talk Radio Host (www.blogtalkradio.com/mzdeeva4you) and my main subject on near all of my segments is the word many fear to talk about in excess: Relationships!
So as I stream my podcast live each week, I get quite a few callers who will call in and share their thoughts and opinions on the current Relationship topics presented. What seems to happen often, with the men and the women, is an air of competition!!! Mz Deeva may be bringing the topic but I am going to call into her show to show her fans how wrong she is on her outlook on these issues
The ones who tend to go against me the most, are the ones I expose often. The 'Relationship Game Players', the 'Satisfied Female Jump Offs', the ones who are indeed guilty of the topic I am sharing and so they fear that truth being exposed, thus following, the competition Live on air!!!
Can we not just all get along in the world of talk radio?!
Though mine is called the Battle of the Sexes, I have shared with you often, we consider it simply 'a friendly engagement between the sexes' Need I change the name in order to bring about a geniune respect for the host on the panel?! Hmmm...
One thing I am well known and respected for on and off BlogTalkRadio.com is that when I am a guest on someone else's show or stage, I never try to downplay or outshine the host. I stand strong in my own opinion I am sharing without ever once having to ridicule or put down the host who invited me to share in discussing their hot topic!
Know when to compete, and first and foremost gain the knowledge of how to RESPECT other's platforms and you will indeed go a very long way in the circle of life!!!
Mz DeeVa, Blog Talk Radio Host and Co-Host of 'Late Night Blog Talking' at Obok in Killeen/FtHood, TX
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