Isn't that just the TRUTH??
A single woman engaging in sex without commitment, all year round, with the same partner or lord knows with multiple partners, should take a breather from sex at some point in time!
I like to call it the
"Season of Celibacy".Taking time to reflect on why you and this other person are having sex on a long term basis, yet have not decided to take it to another level...a step towards a real commitment.
As much as some men...and some women... will argue me down that sex year in and year out without a commitment is NOT meaningless, truth be told ladies and gents, it is just that:
MEANINGLESS SEX. GREAT for while it lasts, yet in the end, he chooses someone else or you choose someone else and now you have both ABUSED a part of
GOD's GREATEST GIFT to mankind: SEX!
"Meaningless sex, which is ALSO Great SEX at the same time but turns around into a full circle and bringing you back to the moment when you didn't know him...has NO PURPOSE!" (Mz DeeVa on iLast Radio Battle of the Sexes 7/17)
Intimacy is NOT a recreational sport and society needs to STOP treating it like it is! Intimacy = IN TO ME YOU SEE! Intimacy says, 'here in this world of caressing, kissing and loving, I am opening up a door that goes deep and near to my soul'...how can you KEEP giving that 'special' someone a GIFT as expensive as that sounds without setting some standards towards your own self worth.
AND...guess what, if you decide to have a
Season of Celibacy, you do not have to BREAK up if you are in a great relationship that is simply facing 'fear to commit' from one of you...keep seeing the person, you will just have to get CREATIVE if you have been engaging in SEX already, and prepare for the struggle to do WITHOUT as he/she respects your decision to hold off.
I say you do not have to break up to take a
Season of Celibacy, because it is not a mandatory action in order to get your OWN mind clear as to why you are engaging in a act reserved for TRUE LOVE and ROMANCE. The only reason a break up may come is if the other person has a SERIOUS problem with the fact that you want to hold off from having sex for a while...if he/she loves you, he will NOT single ladies, she will NOT single men, have a problem with respecting your decison!
Start with doing the research on the word Celibacy alone, and then, activate your own inner common sense...decide if taking a break from
MEANINGLESS sexis for you...do not forget to TELL your partner if you make this decision while in a relationship!
COMMUNICATE, COMMUNICATE, COMMUNICATE...
And then just do it!!
Take a season to take a look deep inside of you and when and if you return back to having sex, be sure you now KNOW what is FOR YOU!!
~Mz DeeVa~
Author of newly released memoir 'Great Sex Is Not Love and Never Will Be' now available on Amazon.com for Kindle and also on Paperback...also available on Nook (www.barnesandnobles.com)
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TRUTH!
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