Celibate Season: Every Single Woman Engaging in Sex Should Take a Break from Meaningless SEX!

On subject of celibacy (Battle of the Sexes, iLast Radio, 7/17): "Every (single) woman should have a season for 'taking time off from sex' (celibate season)....if you are DOING IT all YEAR and you don't even have a damn ring (wedding/engagement)...YOU'RE CRAZEE!!" ~Mz DeeVa~ :-) DeeVaIzm Quote of the weekend!!

Isn't that just the TRUTH??

A single woman engaging in sex without commitment, all year round, with the same partner or lord knows with multiple partners, should take a breather from sex at some point in time!

I like to call it the

"Season of Celibacy".

Taking time to reflect on why you and this other person are having sex on a long term basis, yet have not decided to take it to another level...a step towards a real commitment.

As much as some men...and some women... will argue me down that sex year in and year out without a commitment is NOT meaningless, truth be told ladies and gents, it is just that:

MEANINGLESS SEX

. GREAT for while it lasts, yet in the end, he chooses someone else or you choose someone else and now you have both ABUSED a part of

GOD's GREATEST GIFT to mankind: SEX!

"Meaningless sex, which is ALSO Great SEX at the same time but turns around into a full circle and bringing you back to the moment when you didn't know him...has NO PURPOSE!" (Mz DeeVa on iLast Radio Battle of the Sexes 7/17)

Intimacy is NOT a recreational sport and society needs to STOP treating it like it is! Intimacy = IN TO ME YOU SEE! Intimacy says, 'here in this world of caressing, kissing and loving, I am opening up a door that goes deep and near to my soul'...how can you KEEP giving that 'special' someone a GIFT as expensive as that sounds without setting some standards towards your own self worth.

AND...guess what, if you decide to have a

Season of Celibacy

, you do not have to BREAK up if you are in a great relationship that is simply facing 'fear to commit' from one of you...keep seeing the person, you will just have to get CREATIVE if you have been engaging in SEX already, and prepare for the struggle to do WITHOUT as he/she respects your decision to hold off.

I say you do not have to break up to take a

Season of Celibacy

, because it is not a mandatory action in order to get your OWN mind clear as to why you are engaging in a act reserved for TRUE LOVE and ROMANCE. The only reason a break up may come is if the other person has a SERIOUS problem with the fact that you want to hold off from having sex for a while...if he/she loves you, he will NOT single ladies, she will NOT single men, have a problem with respecting your decison!

Start with doing the research on the word Celibacy alone, and then, activate your own inner common sense...decide if taking a break from

MEANINGLESS sex

is for you...do not forget to TELL your partner if you make this decision while in a relationship!

COMMUNICATE, COMMUNICATE, COMMUNICATE...

And then just do it!!

Take a season to take a look deep inside of you and when and if you return back to having sex, be sure you now KNOW what is FOR YOU!!

~Mz DeeVa~

Author of newly released memoir 'Great Sex Is Not Love and Never Will Be' now available on Amazon.com for Kindle and also on Paperback...also available on Nook (www.barnesandnobles.com)
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The Right Brain vs the Left Brain in Relationships according to Mz DeeVa

Often times we enter into relationships and we fail to take enough time to get to know who we are, let alone figure out who the other person we are getting to know is!

My theory is that knowing whether or not you are Right Brain, Left Brain or
some combination of both is a critical link to minimizing the CONFUSION that
tends to go on in the COMMUNICATION process of dating and relationships
with others!

Now know this, it is not too late to test my theory if you are already years into
the relationship or even married. The discovery point of learning that how you
think and how your mate thinks is a great one!! It really makes a HUGE difference in the success or lack of success of your relationship AND could put an end to never ending arguments and bring the romance back that has long since faded away!!

So here we go...

First, here are the characteristics of the Left Brainers and the Right Brainers.


Left brain tend to be more logical, carrying these traits:

-Logical

-Sequential

-Rational

-Analytical

-Objective

-Looks at parts

Right Brain tend to be more Intuitive, carrying these traits:

-Random

-Intuitive

-Holistic
Synthesizing

-Subjective

-Looks at wholes

Now, discover if you are more of a Right Brain or a Left Brain person by going
online and taking this quick and HARMLESS quiz:

http://www.intelliscript.net/test_area/questionnaire/questionnaire.cgi

and then return back to me for my theory....

At the end of the quiz, you were given a scale that showed you whether or not
you were a Left Brainer, Right Brainer or both.

Now....here is the solution beginning to unfold...Have your partner take the
same test. AND....if he/she refuses to, and you have known them long enough,
and know quite a bit about their personality and ways, try taking the test as if
you are them (less likely to be successful in solving your issues if you cannot get
them to take the test, yet, it will help you understand them more, which is your
goal in the first place! -_-

One tip I will share about the Left Brainer. As you see psychologists have
discovered, Left Brainers think in parts....YET, they are so logical and so very
analytical and objective, they will argue me down on this point to a T...The fact
that Left Brainers think in parts, they tend not to see the WHOLE picture of
what is actually going on!! They will make a conclusion on the situation based
on the very few parts they see of it, and will not fairly GRASP the whole
situation!!

Wondering how that has any impact on your relationship?

Because the Left Brainer lacks a lot of emotion and tends to choose the rational
way of thinking in most arguments or disagreements, they are not going to
FEEL as much as the Right Brainer will, nor will they see the WHOLE situation
right up front. It is not to say that you will not get your point across, because if
you can TRULY understand this about the Left Brainer you will learn how to do
so; it is just simply saying as the initial disagreement takes place, the Left
Brainer is going to stand his/her ground because deep down inside, they
honestly feel they are right! It will take the Right Brainer's patience and
willingness to love them enough or care enough to see the Left Brainer through
ALL parts of the discussion in order to get their point across!

Now, I am still currently studying for my Bachelor's in Guidance Counseling, but
that is the information I have studied throughout my Associates in Social Work
Specialization studies and I find it to be ironic that the study of Left Brainers
vs Right Brainers has a SERIOUS impact on how 2 people can successfully
understand each other more in the dating and marriage process, yet I stand
strong on my conclusion that it will make a HUGE difference on the
COMMUNICATION side of things knowing which side of the brain dominates, for you and your partner!

~Mz DeeVa, Blog Talk Radio Host~

'Tis the Season To Do Away With Unnecessary Competitions!

I find this season bringing me extreme peace and self satisfaction! Yet, I look around me and soon learn that those swimming with me in this sea of happiness are few and far between!
See, I am a web Talk Radio Host (www.blogtalkradio.com/mzdeeva4you) and my main subject on near all of my segments is the word many fear to talk about in excess: Relationships!

So as I stream my podcast live each week, I get quite a few callers who will call in and share their thoughts and opinions on the current Relationship topics presented. What seems to happen often, with the men and the women, is an air of competition!!! Mz Deeva may be bringing the topic but I am going to call into her show to show her fans how wrong she is on her outlook on these issues
The ones who tend to go against me the most, are the ones I expose often. The 'Relationship Game Players', the 'Satisfied Female Jump Offs', the ones who are indeed guilty of the topic I am sharing and so they fear that truth being exposed, thus following, the competition Live on air!!!

Can we not just all get along in the world of talk radio?!

Though mine is called the Battle of the Sexes, I have shared with you often, we consider it simply 'a friendly engagement between the sexes' Need I change the name in order to bring about a geniune respect for the host on the panel?! Hmmm...

One thing I am well known and respected for on and off BlogTalkRadio.com is that when I am a guest on someone else's show or stage, I never try to downplay or outshine the host. I stand strong in my own opinion I am sharing without ever once having to ridicule or put down the host who invited me to share in discussing their hot topic!
Know when to compete, and first and foremost gain the knowledge of how to RESPECT other's platforms and you will indeed go a very long way in the circle of life!!!

Mz DeeVa, Blog Talk Radio Host and Co-Host of 'Late Night Blog Talking' at Obok in Killeen/FtHood, TX

Thicker Women are Easier?!

Ok, the mobile discussion gets going this morning when I vent out a blog via text as to how frustrated I personally am of men, who are total strangers, approaching me, the friendly one at times in our group with sexual conversation or advances that they would never dare say to my friends, who were less approachable at the initial 'hi, how are you' phase. They usually look at the guy like he is complete dirt when he opens his mouth to attempt to say hi, and he fades away into the darkness, until he sees my friendly smile, and southern girl, raised by a REAL southern woman and grandmother mannerisms...and then he opens his mouth with the TOTAL disrespect approach!....

Following me?

Good.

So as I share this, some of my men friends suggested that maybe I should just ask the guy who does that, why did he approach me with inappropriate conversation and we have never met...

...I add here, yes people, I was fully covered, chin to shoe!...

...my reply to asking the jerk anything advice was simply, No, I try to follow advice my mother gives, saying that those type of men just want ANY conversation. I agree, so SAY NOTHING! Most of those types have nothing in between their ears and so your question would come to their ears, 'hey baby, fuck me'...when you simply said, 'why did you approach me like that?'...so no, conversation is not the answer.

Midday I shared maybe it would be best for me to immediately dial 911. When the cops arrive have the idiot arrested for sexual harassment. Hey, I am in Texas, that is a legal charge and the brother would go downtown. And then I was venting to my best friend (lady).... I should add to the 911 call, by calling the local news station as the guy is being arrested and share the story with the reporter for the 10 o'clock news...

...somehow, that made me feel a lot better, cannot wait to exercise that right on the next fool who approaches me wrong.

Now later my best friend (guy) shares with me that most men who come at me, versus my friends, are the members of the 90% Idiot club who's motto is 'THICKER WOMEN are EASIER'...sigh!!!!

I am now shocked that such a category exists, let alone there are fools younger than 195 years old that would even entertain that stupidity in this day and age, so I vent out outtraged that 'any man a part of that dumb percentage may our God place herpes and other STD's on their mediocre male parts!'..(umm you all know I did not use that latter term to describe 'IT'...

...somehow I felt better after that (will share that with my therapist ;)...)

...I later concluded the discussion by simply saying 'My diagnosis on the 'thicker girls are easier syndrome' is this: Male subjects who resort to placing women in categories in order to attempt to strengthen their approach in hopes of the woman paying them any attention, those particular male subjects suffer DEEP insecurity issues and lack of Self Esteem and need medication that has YET to be invented!...

...however, these are simply my thoughts and opinions, so what is your take on this subject??

~ms deeVa~