Wednesday, September 7, 2011
Wednesday, August 31, 2011
Friday, August 26, 2011
'Yo wife is having my Black baby' ROFL wow >> http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rUtrEtVHLAA&feature=youtube_gdata_player Nephew you are crazy!
RelationshipTalk: I've been on air telling you all to keep open communication and to not be selfish; is it working? Http://www.MzDeeVa.com
Thursday, August 25, 2011
Bishop Long accusers soon found out that blackmail does not pay for life, so they plot new 'tell all' book, read on CNN http://t.co/BEvDBqT
Tuesday, August 23, 2011
Wednesday, August 17, 2011
Sunday, August 14, 2011
She Think She's All That Syndrome
I recently had a conversation with a friend girl about how she views
my interactions with different women that come in and out of my life.
She mentioned that she cannot comprehend fully how I do it; how do I
deal with so many diverse types of women, and how do I deal with the
types who are obviously coming around with a competitive attitude?
Like I shared with my friend girl, my way is unique, yet not
unattainable!
I simply accept how people are when they arrive at my front door. I
do not ever get on a mission to change them. I will often encourage
them towards paths that may show them life in a different light, yet
you will never hear me telling any of my friends that they should do it
this way or that way!
And I simply do not feed into the negativity that comes with
comparisons or competitive personality types!
Ladies, when you walk into another woman's life, befriend her
sincerely and you may actually clearly see the reason God allowed you
both to cross paths. When I become a friend, I am just that. No hidden
agendas; I am here and aware that God allowed you in for a reason.
My advice to you all who are struggling with it is this: Pray about it.
Ask God to help you not to act like that; ask God to help you not to be
so judgemental and bossy; stop telling women how to be in order to
fit your lifestyle and just allow them to grow into who they are to
become!
And of most importantly, do away with your competive ways of past
female friendships and just fully embrace the women you meet on this
journey we call life.
The only female, a woman should compare herself to is her own self!Who cares if your friend girl has a seemingly better house, car or relationship? Who
Compare yourself to the little naive girl that you were years ago, to the
woman that you have become today!
cares if her body is more fit or if the strands of her hair are a little
longer?
Stop the competitions and Do you!
And allow God to show you the person you have been competing
with..
Ask Him to share with you why he allowed the both of you to cross
each other's paths. Look for the positives and stop creating the
negatives.
Again my personality and ability to embrace all types of women is
not something that is impossible to emulate...take down your
competitive guards and just give it a try and watch how you begin to
relax in the peace of mind this way of living brings about!
~Mz DeeVa~
P.S. Never Judge a Book By Its Cover ;-) Hope to meet you soon!!
Tuesday, August 2, 2011
Why Do So Many Fear Another Person's Success?
Here is what happens entirely too often: Someone receives a vision,
writes it down, and over time the vision comes to pass, so others begin
to see the vision.
What happens next?
You would think that congratulations would be in order...
...NOT!
Those who fear the vision's success fail to use the word congratulations
and let it stand alone. Oh, yes, most of the time some will start out with
a compliment...and then here comes their negative to sweep that
compliment right on out the door!
You have seen that happen before haven't you?
Or, it has happened to you, right?
Are you asking the seemingly simple question "But why?!"
I answer you by saying 'It is simply fear.'
Many I talk to who have never met me before, call it to be fear as well!
You have heard me say it several times if you have tuned in to my
'Relationship Talk' shows on iLast Radio...and then along came tonight's
phenomenal interview with Author Oliver Reid on 'Let's Talk' and he
said it as well.
What I have learned in life, fear often breeds negativity. People fear
where you could go, and if, if, if, they had the dream or desire to go
there also, get ready for the negatives they will throw at you...yet
remember, they are simply doing so based off of their own Fear!
That my luv, is not your problem, it is theirs!
I highly suggest you check out August 2, 2011 interview on 'Let's Talk
feat Special Guest Oliver Reid' on iLast Radio! Very inspirational and you absolutely
will get a clearer vision as to why people do some of the unexplainable
things that they do when it comes to what you trust and know is your
God given vision!
Be inspired, check it out here
~Mz DeeVa~
"Mz DeeVa is an U.S. Army Widow since the tragic loss of her husband November 12, 2004 in Fallujah, Iraq during Operation Iraqi Freedom. She is the author of newly released memoir 'Great Sex Is Not Love and Never Will Be' now available on Amazon.com for Kindle, on Paperback and via your Nook (www.barnesandnoble.com)
Visit the Facebook fan page for weekly discounts on autographed pre-purchase copies http://www.facebook.com/mzdeeva4you
And do not MISS the tour 'Never Judge a Book By Its Cover' which features Mz DeeVa's
'Sex is Not Love'
(Dallas, Tx 8/19...Richmond, Va 8/20...Manhattan, NY 10/15...Atlanta, Ga and London, England TBA.
BOOKING has OPEN dates, email: mividadnow@gmail.com"
~Team DeeVa, Texas~
writes it down, and over time the vision comes to pass, so others begin
to see the vision.
What happens next?
You would think that congratulations would be in order...
...NOT!
Those who fear the vision's success fail to use the word congratulations
and let it stand alone. Oh, yes, most of the time some will start out with
a compliment...and then here comes their negative to sweep that
compliment right on out the door!
You have seen that happen before haven't you?
Or, it has happened to you, right?
Are you asking the seemingly simple question "But why?!"
I answer you by saying 'It is simply fear.'
Many I talk to who have never met me before, call it to be fear as well!
You have heard me say it several times if you have tuned in to my
'Relationship Talk' shows on iLast Radio...and then along came tonight's
phenomenal interview with Author Oliver Reid on 'Let's Talk' and he
said it as well.
What I have learned in life, fear often breeds negativity. People fear
where you could go, and if, if, if, they had the dream or desire to go
there also, get ready for the negatives they will throw at you...yet
remember, they are simply doing so based off of their own Fear!
That my luv, is not your problem, it is theirs!
I highly suggest you check out August 2, 2011 interview on 'Let's Talk
feat Special Guest Oliver Reid' on iLast Radio! Very inspirational and you absolutely
will get a clearer vision as to why people do some of the unexplainable
things that they do when it comes to what you trust and know is your
God given vision!
Be inspired, check it out here
~Mz DeeVa~
"Mz DeeVa is an U.S. Army Widow since the tragic loss of her husband November 12, 2004 in Fallujah, Iraq during Operation Iraqi Freedom. She is the author of newly released memoir 'Great Sex Is Not Love and Never Will Be' now available on Amazon.com for Kindle, on Paperback and via your Nook (www.barnesandnoble.com)
Visit the Facebook fan page for weekly discounts on autographed pre-purchase copies http://www.facebook.com/mzdeeva4you
And do not MISS the tour 'Never Judge a Book By Its Cover' which features Mz DeeVa's
'Sex is Not Love'
(Dallas, Tx 8/19...Richmond, Va 8/20...Manhattan, NY 10/15...Atlanta, Ga and London, England TBA.
BOOKING has OPEN dates, email: mividadnow@gmail.com"
~Team DeeVa, Texas~
Monday, July 18, 2011
Celibate Season: Every Single Woman Engaging in Sex Should Take a Break from Meaningless SEX!
On subject of celibacy (Battle of the Sexes, iLast Radio, 7/17): "Every (single) woman should have a season for 'taking time off from sex' (celibate season)....if you are DOING IT all YEAR and you don't even have a damn ring (wedding/engagement)...YOU'RE CRAZEE!!" ~Mz DeeVa~ :-) DeeVaIzm Quote of the weekend!!
Isn't that just the TRUTH??
A single woman engaging in sex without commitment, all year round, with the same partner or lord knows with multiple partners, should take a breather from sex at some point in time!
I like to call it the
As much as some men...and some women... will argue me down that sex year in and year out without a commitment is NOT meaningless, truth be told ladies and gents, it is just that:
"Meaningless sex, which is ALSO Great SEX at the same time but turns around into a full circle and bringing you back to the moment when you didn't know him...has NO PURPOSE!" (Mz DeeVa on iLast Radio Battle of the Sexes 7/17)
Intimacy is NOT a recreational sport and society needs to STOP treating it like it is! Intimacy = IN TO ME YOU SEE! Intimacy says, 'here in this world of caressing, kissing and loving, I am opening up a door that goes deep and near to my soul'...how can you KEEP giving that 'special' someone a GIFT as expensive as that sounds without setting some standards towards your own self worth.
AND...guess what, if you decide to have a
I say you do not have to break up to take a
Start with doing the research on the word Celibacy alone, and then, activate your own inner common sense...decide if taking a break from
COMMUNICATE, COMMUNICATE, COMMUNICATE...
And then just do it!!
Take a season to take a look deep inside of you and when and if you return back to having sex, be sure you now KNOW what is FOR YOU!!
~Mz DeeVa~
Author of newly released memoir 'Great Sex Is Not Love and Never Will Be' now available on Amazon.com for Kindle and also on Paperback...also available on Nook (www.barnesandnobles.com)
Visit the Facebook fan page for weekly discounts on autographed pre-purchase copies http://www.facebook.com/mzdeeva4you
And do not MISS the tour 'Never Judge a Book By Its Cover' which features Mz DeeVa's
BOOKING has OPEN dates, email: mividadnow@gmail.com
Isn't that just the TRUTH??
A single woman engaging in sex without commitment, all year round, with the same partner or lord knows with multiple partners, should take a breather from sex at some point in time!
I like to call it the
"Season of Celibacy".Taking time to reflect on why you and this other person are having sex on a long term basis, yet have not decided to take it to another level...a step towards a real commitment.
As much as some men...and some women... will argue me down that sex year in and year out without a commitment is NOT meaningless, truth be told ladies and gents, it is just that:
MEANINGLESS SEX. GREAT for while it lasts, yet in the end, he chooses someone else or you choose someone else and now you have both ABUSED a part of
GOD's GREATEST GIFT to mankind: SEX!
"Meaningless sex, which is ALSO Great SEX at the same time but turns around into a full circle and bringing you back to the moment when you didn't know him...has NO PURPOSE!" (Mz DeeVa on iLast Radio Battle of the Sexes 7/17)
Intimacy is NOT a recreational sport and society needs to STOP treating it like it is! Intimacy = IN TO ME YOU SEE! Intimacy says, 'here in this world of caressing, kissing and loving, I am opening up a door that goes deep and near to my soul'...how can you KEEP giving that 'special' someone a GIFT as expensive as that sounds without setting some standards towards your own self worth.
AND...guess what, if you decide to have a
Season of Celibacy, you do not have to BREAK up if you are in a great relationship that is simply facing 'fear to commit' from one of you...keep seeing the person, you will just have to get CREATIVE if you have been engaging in SEX already, and prepare for the struggle to do WITHOUT as he/she respects your decision to hold off.
I say you do not have to break up to take a
Season of Celibacy, because it is not a mandatory action in order to get your OWN mind clear as to why you are engaging in a act reserved for TRUE LOVE and ROMANCE. The only reason a break up may come is if the other person has a SERIOUS problem with the fact that you want to hold off from having sex for a while...if he/she loves you, he will NOT single ladies, she will NOT single men, have a problem with respecting your decison!
Start with doing the research on the word Celibacy alone, and then, activate your own inner common sense...decide if taking a break from
MEANINGLESS sexis for you...do not forget to TELL your partner if you make this decision while in a relationship!
COMMUNICATE, COMMUNICATE, COMMUNICATE...
And then just do it!!
Take a season to take a look deep inside of you and when and if you return back to having sex, be sure you now KNOW what is FOR YOU!!
~Mz DeeVa~
Author of newly released memoir 'Great Sex Is Not Love and Never Will Be' now available on Amazon.com for Kindle and also on Paperback...also available on Nook (www.barnesandnobles.com)
Visit the Facebook fan page for weekly discounts on autographed pre-purchase copies http://www.facebook.com/mzdeeva4you
And do not MISS the tour 'Never Judge a Book By Its Cover' which features Mz DeeVa's
'Sex is Not Love'(Dallas, Tx 8/19...Richmond, Va 8/20...Manhattan, NY 10/15...Atlanta, Ga and London, England TBA.
BOOKING has OPEN dates, email: mividadnow@gmail.com
Friday, June 24, 2011
Wednesday, March 9, 2011
The Cheater
When he is declaring his innocence loudly, he usually has a chic on the side.
When you ask him 'did you bang so and so' and he replies 'I would never bang that fat or ugly or broke b**ch' he has been banging her for over 2 months or more.
Ladies, when you accuse a man, and he is innocent, his response is quiet in nature, peaceful, no argument. When he yells back...simply guilty.
Never waste time on accusing or asking. Trust that what is done in the dark, will always come to the light.
Put 200% behind the relationship, so if he cheats, you walk away knowing you owe him nothing less than that classy exit!
When you ask him 'did you bang so and so' and he replies 'I would never bang that fat or ugly or broke b**ch' he has been banging her for over 2 months or more.
Ladies, when you accuse a man, and he is innocent, his response is quiet in nature, peaceful, no argument. When he yells back...simply guilty.
Never waste time on accusing or asking. Trust that what is done in the dark, will always come to the light.
Put 200% behind the relationship, so if he cheats, you walk away knowing you owe him nothing less than that classy exit!
Friday, February 4, 2011
The word Problem, is the Problem!
The word problem is the problem!!!
Often in relationships two people will disagree, some couples more than others.
The right communication is key towards building a healthy realationship or restoring a broken one.
How you approach your mate during an argument usually will determine just how long the disagreement will go on.
A mistake many make, the problem, lies right in that ONE word, problem!
Along with a nasty tone, saying 'what's your problem?!' is going to cause your mate to get on the instant defense! There actually is a more respectable approach that will get your answer as well as cause a positive response vs a negative one.
The next time your woman or man seems to be having an issue that they are not communicating to you, wait for the right timing, maybe even suggesting a walk around a park or school track, a place where oxygen can flow to the brain and keep the stress level low! And then try saying this:
"I see that something is bothering you and I am concerned baby, so, what's up? what's going on with you today?"
And yes, verbatim would be best if this approach is NEW to you!!
All in all, feel the cool from the winter air versus the tension and ice cold look from your partner by avoiding those dreadfully negative words, 'what's's your problem?!'
DeAnna 'Mz DeeVa' Shields
Monday, January 3, 2011
Virtual Dating
Virtual Dating tips from Mz Deeva
-1st Have several, several intense conversations via Email or IM before sharing your number.
Ask detailed questions and leave room in your heart before you fall for him/her to discover the truth when/if you actually meet and spend weeks REALLY getting to know him/her.
-Exchange numbers once you are clear that they meet your initial 'narrow your choices down' standards
If local
choose a coffee shop for first meeting. Do not use each other's apartments or houses to meet up. Too soon for that!
If out of state
*Dont date out of reasonable travel zones unless you discovered by intense conversation and date 1 and 2 you can both afford to do so!
Date 1: He comes to your state, gets a hotel n rents a car
Date 2: You go to his state, get a hotel room, n rent a car
Oh, and plz do not stay over at the hotel or his/her place on Date 1 and 2! ;-)
On safety:
Always let your close friend or family member know of any plans to meet your new virtual friend alone. I have a friend girl I can text when I go on dates even if we haven't talked in months!
Be accounted for when meeting a guy/girl online...not all folks are in their right mind!
On the subject of sex:
-If you met him/her online, spend at least 6 months before allowing any making out. Weak people will tell you it's impossible. Please hear this strong woman when I say, keep the dates creative and full of adventure and this time will pass by before you know it!
Moving in with him/her:
-Let me talk straight to my independent yet lonely ladies on this one, ok? Men take notes and apply accordingly.
Ladies, please do not allow some guy from out of state or even locally to get in your head about coming to spend a week, month or two with you in order to get to know you better!
That is the most popular line 'virtual liars' use!
A real man will have his living situation in order and can date you from afar.
You get me on that?
He has no reason at all to move in YOUR place or even move you in HIS place, just to get to know you better!
The game is played so they can either, leave the woman they met a couple months back online, who is about to boot them out because they found out his game...or....he just split with his ex and is trying to move you in to help with that now one sided financial burden.
More is in my book coming this summer I had to share since it is hot topic this evening!
Ladies and Gents, OnLine date wisely! And know a 'Virtual Liar' when you see him 'Typing' up!!!
~Mz DeeVa~
Web Talk Radio Hostess of iLast Radio segments like 'Relationship Talk', 'Let's Talk', and 'Battle of the Sexes', and new Authoress of memoir 'Great Sex Is Not Love and Never Will Be!' and upcoming Relationship Book: 'So Your Heart's Been Broken? Please Get Back Out There!'
Follow Mz DeeVa on Twitter: @MzDeeva4you for more or like her fan page 'Mz DeeVa' on www.facebook.com/mzdeeva4you as well as join her book club on Facebook 'Great Sex Is Not Love Book Club'
-1st Have several, several intense conversations via Email or IM before sharing your number.
Ask detailed questions and leave room in your heart before you fall for him/her to discover the truth when/if you actually meet and spend weeks REALLY getting to know him/her.
-Exchange numbers once you are clear that they meet your initial 'narrow your choices down' standards
If local
choose a coffee shop for first meeting. Do not use each other's apartments or houses to meet up. Too soon for that!
If out of state
*Dont date out of reasonable travel zones unless you discovered by intense conversation and date 1 and 2 you can both afford to do so!
Date 1: He comes to your state, gets a hotel n rents a car
Date 2: You go to his state, get a hotel room, n rent a car
Oh, and plz do not stay over at the hotel or his/her place on Date 1 and 2! ;-)
On safety:
Always let your close friend or family member know of any plans to meet your new virtual friend alone. I have a friend girl I can text when I go on dates even if we haven't talked in months!
Be accounted for when meeting a guy/girl online...not all folks are in their right mind!
On the subject of sex:
-If you met him/her online, spend at least 6 months before allowing any making out. Weak people will tell you it's impossible. Please hear this strong woman when I say, keep the dates creative and full of adventure and this time will pass by before you know it!
Moving in with him/her:
-Let me talk straight to my independent yet lonely ladies on this one, ok? Men take notes and apply accordingly.
Ladies, please do not allow some guy from out of state or even locally to get in your head about coming to spend a week, month or two with you in order to get to know you better!
That is the most popular line 'virtual liars' use!
A real man will have his living situation in order and can date you from afar.
You get me on that?
He has no reason at all to move in YOUR place or even move you in HIS place, just to get to know you better!
The game is played so they can either, leave the woman they met a couple months back online, who is about to boot them out because they found out his game...or....he just split with his ex and is trying to move you in to help with that now one sided financial burden.
More is in my book coming this summer I had to share since it is hot topic this evening!
Ladies and Gents, OnLine date wisely! And know a 'Virtual Liar' when you see him 'Typing' up!!!
~Mz DeeVa~
Web Talk Radio Hostess of iLast Radio segments like 'Relationship Talk', 'Let's Talk', and 'Battle of the Sexes', and new Authoress of memoir 'Great Sex Is Not Love and Never Will Be!' and upcoming Relationship Book: 'So Your Heart's Been Broken? Please Get Back Out There!'
Follow Mz DeeVa on Twitter: @MzDeeva4you for more or like her fan page 'Mz DeeVa' on www.facebook.com/mzdeeva4you as well as join her book club on Facebook 'Great Sex Is Not Love Book Club'
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